Options For LGBTQ


At RMA of Southern California , we are at the forefront of LGBTQ fertility care in the United States. We are very proud to offer fertility services to our LGBTQ patients and we take extra care in treating every one of our patients equally, regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, or marital status.

This process can be overwhelming for our LGBTQ patients, and our dedicated staff wants to make the reproductive treatment process as simple and painless as possible. Let our staff manage the logistics so you can turn your attention to the important decisions as you explore your path to parenthood.

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Explore Your Options

It is very exciting for you and your partner on deciding to become parents! At RMA of Southern California, we are committed to helping all families pursue parenthood using safe and proven effective methods. Below you’ll find some helpful information that should be supportive during this journey, even if this isn’t your first foray into reproductive medicine.

As gay couples you can pursue egg donation with a gestational surrogate. It’s only possible for the sperm of one man to fertilize an egg, and some gay couples opt for split inseminations. This process fertilizes half of the donor eggs with sperm from one of the men, and the other half is fertilized with the other partner’s sperm. The split insemination process requires a significant investment of both time and money for the medical treatment, legal contracts, agency fees, and all other applicable expenses. The team at RMA of Southern California will work closely with you and your partner to ensure we can provide the best possible care at every step of the process. Each one of our patients receives a completely custom-tailored treatment plan that takes their unique needs, goals, and medical concerns into account.

Call the team at RMA of Southern California today to speak with one of our patient liaisons about your options.


Finding a Gestational Surrogate

The woman who will carry the pregnancy for you and your partner is a gestational surrogate, also known as a gestational carrier. It is important to note that the surrogate has no genetic tie to the developing embryo. Gestational surrogates carry pregnancies for others who cannot do so for themselves.

The third party reproduction team at RMA of Southern California will help you find the right surrogate for your family.  Sometimes couples have friends or relatives who are willing to carry the pregnancy, and we try to facilitate these arrangements whenever possible. However, for gay couples who don’t have any such volunteers, a reputable agency will help match you and your partner with a compassionate woman who is willing to carry and birth your child for you. Ultimately, whoever you choose to carry your baby is going to be working closely with you, your partner, and your care team throughout the journey.

Gestational surrogacy involves a great deal of legal issues. It’s vital for you and your partner to understand the laws governing your plans for parenthood and consider your options carefully. We recommend that our patients work with an experienced attorney who specializes in family law or third-party reproduction. The RMA of Southern California team only works with carriers from states with surrogacy-friendly laws. Some states have reproductive laws that complicate the establishment of legal parentage, and for this reason, we do not consider surrogates from these states as eligible for surrogacy through our organization. Our team will help connect you to the right legal resources you’ll need to make the safest family-building decisions possible.

Most of the gay couples we help will choose to look for an egg or embryo donor at the same time they begin searching for a surrogate. This helps cut down on the time needed to get the process started. We can also match you and your partner to a donor first to start the embryo creation process. This way, the embryos will be ready for transfer into the carrier as soon as she is found.


Finding Your Egg or Embryo Donor

There are few options when looking for an egg donor: known egg donors such as friends or family, anonymous egg donation. While known donors and egg donation allow for a genetic link to your child, donated embryos have no genetic ties to either parent or the carrier. These anonymous gifts were previously created by another couple pursuing IVF treatment. The RMA of Southern California third party reproduction team assigned to your case will help you navigate these options and find the solution that feels most right to you and your family.

For the egg donation program, there are a lot of processes involved from selecting to matching and before the  cycle treatment begins. Every donor undergo an extensive screening process that covers their medical, genetic, and psychological health and acceptability before they receive approval for donating their eggs by our medical team. We use the standards established by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) during the screening process to ensure our donors and recipients are as compatible as possible. We set very high standards for our donors to ensure our clients have access to only the healthiest and most reliable donors.

At RMA of Southern California, we work closely with various trusted egg donation agencies across the country. Our specialists have carefully screened each of these agencies to ensure they meet our exceptionally high standards for patient care and medical responsibility.

Patients may also opt to work with a donor egg bank to use frozen eggs. A frozen egg bank can lead to less time spent in the donor matching process as the eggs are immediately available. You and your partner simply choose your own egg donor match from the bank’s database.

Every hopeful parent’s path is different. Our RMA of Southern California team will be there to guide and support you and your partner through every step of the process and do everything we can to ensure a safe and satisfactory outcome.


IVF for Gay Men

Through the process of IVF (In vitro fertilization), gestational surrogacy, and egg donation, gay men can contribute to their children’s genetic makeups.

There are several steps involved in the egg donation and gestational surrogacy process.  From the precycle testing of all parties through the  process of extracting the donor’s eggs  and injecting the sperm into the eggs to then implanting the embryo into the uterus of the gestational carrier.  You can expect to work very closely with your RMA of Southern California’s third party reproduction team during this entire process. We’ll ensure you and your matched egg donor and your surrogate will be in sync during all phases of the IVF treatment cycle. The RMA of Southern California team will keep you, the soon-to-be parents, informed during every step of the process.

Some patients opt to do comprehensive chromosome screening (CCS), it is also known as Pre-Implantation Genetic Screening (PGS). This process involves testing embryos to ensure they have the correct number of chromosomes so they can develop into healthy babies. The CCS process is also known to decrease the chances of miscarriage and improves live birth rates. CCS can also reveal the sex of an embryo, and this can be very important information for some couples. Every couple has different priorities, but we want to help all our clients explore all of the options and services at their disposal when they work with RMA of Southern California.


Options for Fertilization

Gay men have various fertilization options for their family building plans. It’s only possible for one man’s sperm to fertilize any given egg, so babies born to gay couples will only share genetic links to one parent. However, many gay couples opt for split insemination procedures. Split insemination combines sperm from both men with two sets of donor eggs.

The intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI) process is a common fertilization procedure for IVF cycles that produces more fertilized eggs than traditional fertilization processes. ICSI is the process of taking one sperm and directly injecting it into a donor egg. After injection, am embryologist will observe the egg over the next day to determine whether fertilization and proper maturation have occurred. If so, the embryo is transferred into your gestational surrogate’s uterus or frozen for later use.


If you’d like to learn more about your options for pursuing parenthood, remember that the RMA network has been at the forefront of LGBTQ assisted reproductive technology for decades. RMA of Southern California will continue to be a leading ally to many hopeful LGBTQ parents across the country. Contact our team today if you’d like more information or to explore your options more deeply.